TNP on a Thursday: Pushed over the edge edition.

An NMO group I belong to recently regressed into a high school drama tit-for-tat fest.  I don’t have the time or energy for that kind of stuff and left the group.

The original post was political and divisive and the author couldn’t see the difference between opening a topic for discussion/sharing information and calling a group of people idiots.  (yes, it actually involved the word idiot) She then proceded to complain that the mods weren’t admonishing someone for posting information about a petition for controversial medical therapy that she didn’t agree with. After all, she got a message about her post not being appropriate.

I appear to have developed an intolerance for people who demand that you agree with them. I don’t care if I do agree with what they are saying or not. The moment you demean a person or group or their views just because they aren’t just.like.yours, you have crossed a line.

What has happened to the ability to talk about things without it devolving into name calling, drama or condescending attitudes?  To have a conversation and an exchange of ideas that are thought provoking? To understand why someone might feel different than you? To agree to disagree? *

My views are not yours. I have had different life experiences that have brought me to where I am. My views have changed over the years as I have grown, lived and matured.  They may change again. They are my opinions. You have yours. I respect your right to have them. I just don’t respect you as a person when you imply a group or someone (or their opinion) is stupid or “less than” because they don’t agree with you.

Needless to say, I have been withdrawing from groups and relationships because, as I said above, I do not have the time or energy to deal with it.  I do not have the graciousness or patience to overlook it right now. Maybe, in the future, I’ll change my mind.

Happy Thursday y’all. Who has my caffeine?

*I am very lucky to have a friend that I talk to regularly that has vastly different views on some hot topics and yet, we can have conversations about them. I can express why (or what) I feel about things. She can express her views. We can “yeah, but” back and forth and then turn around and talk about cute weekender bags. She gets it. And I wish more people did.

8 thoughts on “TNP on a Thursday: Pushed over the edge edition.

  1. I don’t blame you. At all. That lack of respect is pandemic in our culture, sadly. So many people think getting the last word in is more important than truly understanding what the other is telling you. I think sooner or later that type of person pushes or runs off everyone in their lives… If the exception of people who are just like them.

    Ever wanna take shoes or bags, let me know…

  2. That’s too bad. I’ve had to do that sometimes too (even one guy who was too aggressively liberal for me, heh) but mostly I just don’t talk about some subjects with some people.

  3. I’m sorry that you had to leave the group, but you are better off without the drama. I’ve had a week full of disagreeable people and I’ve had to bite my tongue a lot.

    xo

  4. You have to be a big person to listen to other people’s views and in general people now aren’t big. They are small and self centered. You are better off without the drama but it’s a shame you had to leave the group.
    Happy Friday! 😀

  5. I’m sorry about the loss of the group and relationships. I hope for greater peace for you as you remove what does not work in your life, and as that makes room for what does. I’m glad you have a friend for those conversations. xo

  6. I’m sorry. Sadly, this seems to be the way that all groups tend to go. Larry and I both used to be the administrators for different support groups, and had to either give up the groups or our sanity. (Well, maybe we left them a little too late…)

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