An NMO group I belong to recently regressed into a high school drama tit-for-tat fest. I don’t have the time or energy for that kind of stuff and left the group.
The original post was political and divisive and the author couldn’t see the difference between opening a topic for discussion/sharing information and calling a group of people idiots. (yes, it actually involved the word idiot) She then proceded to complain that the mods weren’t admonishing someone for posting information about a petition for controversial medical therapy that she didn’t agree with. After all, she got a message about her post not being appropriate.
I appear to have developed an intolerance for people who demand that you agree with them. I don’t care if I do agree with what they are saying or not. The moment you demean a person or group or their views just because they aren’t just.like.yours, you have crossed a line.
What has happened to the ability to talk about things without it devolving into name calling, drama or condescending attitudes? To have a conversation and an exchange of ideas that are thought provoking? To understand why someone might feel different than you? To agree to disagree? *
My views are not yours. I have had different life experiences that have brought me to where I am. My views have changed over the years as I have grown, lived and matured. They may change again. They are my opinions. You have yours. I respect your right to have them. I just don’t respect you as a person when you imply a group or someone (or their opinion) is stupid or “less than” because they don’t agree with you.
Needless to say, I have been withdrawing from groups and relationships because, as I said above, I do not have the time or energy to deal with it. I do not have the graciousness or patience to overlook it right now. Maybe, in the future, I’ll change my mind.
Happy Thursday y’all. Who has my caffeine?
*I am very lucky to have a friend that I talk to regularly that has vastly different views on some hot topics and yet, we can have conversations about them. I can express why (or what) I feel about things. She can express her views. We can “yeah, but” back and forth and then turn around and talk about cute weekender bags. She gets it. And I wish more people did.